Is your Inner Critic Stealing your Peace?

As I write this I am reflecting on the past year and am amazed at how much has happened, how much has changed and the endless possibilities for the future, but for right now in this moment I am savouring the joy and gratitude I feel.

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Recently I was part of a World Peace Summit with some other incredible women. Some were seasoned speakers, some had only spoken on stage a few times before and one brave woman was speaking for the first time, sharing her stories many women would feel ashamed of, but she wasn’t defining herself by her past. She was determined to speak up and be the voice for many who hadn’t found theirs yet.

We spoke about human dignity. There were many great ideas on what that means but overall the message was ‘if we don’t value ourselves with dignity we can’t treat others with that same respect.’

How can we create a peaceful world if we are not peaceful inside?

I believe we are all equal, we have all been ‘there’ at one time or another. Speaking for the first time, sharing stories from the past, coming out of our shell where we stayed safe and small due to fear of judgements and the uncertainty that we even have something valuable to share.

We are all here to lift each other up and support our fellow community to rise above the noise, stand up for something we believe in and shine our light so others can find us!

I truly believe this is a big part of our mission for being here … along with fully experiencing the ups and downs of life so we can learn and grow.

I still get a little nervous before I take the stage but it goes away once I’m there and something drives me to express myself and share my stories because it always helps someone else know they are not alone in how they feel or the experiences they find themselves in.

There was a time not so long ago I was terrified to stand on stage feeling ashamed to tell others how I treated myself with a lot of “dis-respect”.

The subject I shared was my negative self-talk. This is a topic I think everyone can relate to. Some of us let our inner critic tell us what to think and do and it can be very disempowering. I did this for many years and once I became aware of it and saw the damage it was doing I was able to do something about it.

So if you think you might have a similar inner dialogue in common with this I invite you to answer these questions honestly without judging yourself:

  • What runs through your head, is it constant thought?

  • What are you saying to yourself when something goes wrong, when you feel overwhelmed or it’s just one of those challenging days?

  • Do you automatically take the blame for things that go wrong? Maybe not outwardly but you think about how you weren’t enough in some way.

  • Maybe you have someone(s) in your life who blames you when something goes wrong?

  • Do you have a hard time accepting compliments and deflect them or maybe not even acknowledge them and change the subject to something different?

I was my own worst enemy and I can now spot it pretty easily since I became aware and know how it works.
Negative self-talk is a habit and like any other habit it can be hard to break when you automatically do it. I had no idea how often I was berating myself until I paid attention to my inner critic and even when I tried to override it I wouldn’t believe it on the inside.

When we get in the habit of this there are some things we can do to counteract it and change our self-talk so we can feel peaceful and happy.

# 1 Pay attention to what you are saying to yourself – awareness is the first step towards change.

# 2 When you notice your negative self-talk reverse it – ‘I’m an idiot, I forgot again!’ Can be reversed into ‘Oh I forgot again, well that’s ok I’ll make sure to write it down for next time.’

# 3 Practice positive self-talk – As soon as you wake up and open your eyes say something that will uplift you such as, “Today is going to be a great day! I’m excited to see what will unfold.” (This might feel cheesy or false if you’re not feeling it but remember, your brain doesn’t know if you are telling it a lie or a truth so praising ourselves every day for what we did do well or maybe we got through it even though it was tough is important to celebrate.)

 

I created a fun way to create positive self talk and I’d love to share it with you!

It’s the Soul Adventure Game where you use your energy, intuition and inspired action for creating clarity, transformation and magic in your life.

My clients and pilot group are loving it and having profound results in only a couple months!

You can find out more about this unique way to make personal development a positive habit here and kick your inner critic to the curb …. with love of course!

Lorree Appleby

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FOUNDER'S LETTER

I've always been someone who wanted to play by my own terms. And, over the years, by trial and error, I carved a path for myself as an entrepreneur. But it was never an easy road.

A big part of my motivation in launching H.U.B Inc was to create a home for dynamic businesswomen – innovators, risk takers, visionaries – all of them marching to the beat of their own drummers and yet all of them in need of the support, camaraderie, guidance, and resources that comes from being a part of like-minded group. Or, as I like to call it, a family.

And that's the one message that I'd really like to emphasize: you don’t have to do it alone.

Our goal at H.U.B Inc is to make a difference in the lives of entrepreneurs – to dramatically increase their revenue and grow their businesses correctly. No more playing small, and no more struggling on your own: it‘s time we all rise up together!

I truly believe that when you build confidence in an entrepreneur, when you help them plug into a larger network and achieve financial success, they will – as a direct result – be able to give back to their community and, by extension, to change the world.

That's really what we're here for – to rise up together and make the world a better place.

I would love to have you join us.

 
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The Quest for Happiness

Almost everyone is searching for some form of happiness in his or her life, but for many, that happiness can be quite elusive. Perhaps we are looking for happiness in the wrong place. I believe happiness exists on the inside and will only appear on the outside once we have found it inside of ourselves.  

Before we can find true happiness though, we should really understand what it is we are looking for. I remember having a conversation with a homeless person once at a center I volunteered at and he asked me what happiness was. I thought for a moment and then suggested to him that as a person, you are truly happy when there are more positive moments in your life than negative ones.

Our life can be seen as a series of individual moments, all linked together.  If you are seeking happiness then, simply begin by attracting and creating happy moments. It’s really quite simple; begin by finding the things you like to do and do them often. Choose activities that make you feel good on the inside and put a smile on your face. Surround yourself with happy people, and those who help you to feel good about yourself. Try new things and watch to see how they make you feel. When you find the things that make you truly happy, ensure you have lots of those in your life. When you find something that doesn’t feel good at all, part with it immediately, or find a way to change it. Remember, what you experience in life is always your choice!

Something I have discovered, throughout my own quest for happiness, is that what makes me feel happy today may not make me feel happy tomorrow. Try not to get too attached to those things that make you feel happy today. Enjoy them, feel the happiness, then let them go. It is when we cling to that specific happy moment and try to make it last forever, that we get disappointed. Here is an example. You go shopping for some new clothes and when you put them on for the first time you feel great. Fantastic!  But we both know that in a few months, if you're feeling down and you put on these same clothes you probably won't feel happy at all. That’s because happiness is in and of the moment.

So, if you want happiness in your life, seek lots and lots of happy moments. Also, keep in mind that happiness exists in the present moment, not in some future moment. How many times have you heard someone say, “When I get that new job or that new house, then I will be happy?” But, happiness never exists “when I…” it only exists now.

Try not to get too hung-up on your search for happiness. Simply realize and accept your desire for happiness and allow it to come to you. The best way to find happiness is to experience life to the fullest. Don't fret over the moments that don't give you happiness, simply let them go and move on. When you find things that make you happy, try to add them to your daily routine. Create personal rituals that make you smile on the outside and on the inside. And remember, what makes you happy today may not make you happy in a year from now. This could be a job, a friend, a physical activity, a hobby or a lifestyle choice. Don’t fret! Our happiness changes as we change. If it doesn't make you happy anymore, try to let it go and move on to something else.

Happiness is a result of how we feel on the inside. When I feel good, at peace and content, then more happiness appears in my life. When I feel stressed and anxious, it is very difficult to find happy moments no matter how hard I search. Work on feeling good about who you are. Let go of the opinions of others, let go of the self-limiting, conditioned beliefs that hold you back, quiet your mind, and most of all, find that place in your Heart of Hearts where peace, contentment and joy reside. Once you find it, be sure to go back and visit often!  

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About Jeffrey Eisen

Whether you’re looking for change in your career, your relationships, or a particular area of your life, or you just feel as though something is missing or isn’t how it should be—you’ve come to the right place.

My name is Jeffrey Eisen. I guide and empower people to make significant, powerful and meaningful life changes.

Learn more about Jeffrey at www.awakeningtheself.com

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Powerful Strategies for Running a Successful Business

By: Anita Heidema

How to be a more efficient and focused entrepreneur

The foundation behind any successful business is mindset, but in order to build your ideas and beliefs into a viable, revenue-driving business, you must have the right strategies in place.

After all, our ideas are only as great as our abilities to implement them. Entrepreneurs are artists and innovators, but being a business owner is about much more than that.

You need a business plan.

While the thought of a stuffy mission statement may bring flashbacks to your days working in the corporate world, the business plan does serve its purpose in entrepreneurship. Why do you do what you do? What values do you want your brand to represent? What target client or customer base are you looking to attract?  Take the time to brainstorm and reflect on these key questions, and then write down your responses. The act of writing out your business plan helps make your thoughts and ideas more concrete, allowing you to refer back and modify as your business grows.

You need a brand image.

Once you’ve established who your target market is, you need to come up with a way to reach out and connect with them. This is where your marketing strategy comes in. Determine your core brand messaging. How will you showcase this through a social media strategy? Will you use print advertising to reach your target base? What about Google Adwords? Understand what your marketing goals are, and then put a plan in place to achieve these milestones.

You need a bookkeeping system.

When you’re an entrepreneur, you wear many hats, and when you’re in the early stages of building your business, bookkeeper is likely one of them. Even if financing is not one of your strengths, it’s important to understand what numbers are important to your business and how you will track them. What invoicing system will you use? What are your revenue goals? How will you track expenses? If you want to run a successful business, you need to have a handle on your finances.

About Anita Heidema

Anita Heidema is many things to many people but mostly a Mindset Coach and Business Strategist to entrepreneurs who want to live powerful passionate lives. Anita is also a speaker, NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist, Author to Amazon best-seller to Vitality Knocks, creator of Mind Your Business Class, Mind School & Ah-ha! Academy for entrepreneurs, 21 Day Journey to Success and various other programs for business and leadership success. As Hypnotherapist and Travel creator of “Getaway to Find Your Way” Anita executes programs and destination getaways and online programs that build your mindset and strategies for business and leadership success.

Learn more about Anita at www.AnitaHeidema.com

 

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Self-Esteem and Worthiness - An Important Step to Success!

Everything is the matter of perception. You have your own perception of the world around you. You have relationship with everything. You have relationship with your career, with your business, with money, with your success, with people around you. You have the relationship with yourself.
We all have habitual opinions about us. We all have habitual feelings and thoughts about our abilities, our talents, our beauty, our finances, our communication skills, etc.
Have you ever thought about your perception of yourself? What do you think and feel about you? What do you think and feel about your abilities, talents? What do you believe about what you can or can’t do, how much you can earn, how worthy you are?
How do you treat yourself? How do you treat yourself with your own judgments, your own feelings and thoughts?
Have you ever thought about your inner self-image? Have you ever wondered about your relationship with you?
Nevertheless the topic of your relationships with you is pretty significant if your goals are success, financial freedom and happiness overall.
It is really difficult for people with low self-esteem to reach high goals. If you feel guilt, if you feel unworthy, incapable, if you feel useless, if you feel you are unable to do what you want, most likely you won’t reach what you want.
How can others treat you well, love and respect you, if you don’t treat yourself well, love and respect yourself?
We are vibrational beings. We think thoughts that put us in a specific vibration that manifests as feelings. We attract according to our vibrational output. We radiate specific vibration and attract like. 
There are specific laws that govern our Universe, Law of Attraction and its foundation Law of Vibration are as precise as other laws, such as law of gravity.
Therefore your inner state, your habitual thoughts and feelings about yourself play an important role in what you attract and what you experience.
There are many false, negative inner beliefs that you picked up along your life, they influence your habitual vibration, and your habitual point of attraction.
When you let go of those negative limiting, false inner beliefs, you release resistance they create, resistance to the natural flow of Wellbeing that is always here. You feel good and you thrive naturally and easily. When you think thoughts about yourself, your abilities, people around you and the world that are in alignment with Higher Broader Part of You, when you think and feel from Who You Really Are, you feel joy, you are filled with serenity, love, appreciation, pride, success and prosperity. You are open to the free flow of Well being that constantly flows to you and through you. Your journey becomes as joyous as destination and you feel real love, worthiness and appreciation of Who You Really Are.
When you understand that all you are looking for comes from within, you discover the true empowerment, because you realize it is unconditional (does not depend on outside circumstances & people). The only thing you have control of is your inner world (your minds, your inner state, your thoughts and feelings). You can build and shape yourself, because when you bring the change within you see it without. When you change your character (your habitual inner programming) you change your destiny.
“Zlatoslava Petrak’s mission is to educate people so they can reach their highest potential in all aspects of their lives and live their dreams." Bob Proctor, Expert on human mind and potential. If you would like to know more about the power of your own mind and the science of happy, joyous and prosperous living visit: www.TriumphofHappiness.com

Here is an amazing FREE Gift, that can help you let go of your negative, false inner beliefs about you, your finances, your abilities, your talent, your prosperity. It will help you release resistance and open to the free flow of Well being, Joy and Prosperity

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A Woman's Guide To Taming Her Chaos

You know what I’m talking about when I say that there are moments that I am SO grateful that my thoughts are my own. Thoughts that can land me in a psych hospital.

“If that woman sends me one more email!”
“If that kid screams one more time!”
“I am in a rush! Let’s move this line along before I…”

Yes, indeed, there are moments that we believe we are living in absolute chaos. Moments that make us wonder how we manage at all.

First realistic response?  “OK, because I have to be “Super Woman” and want to accomplish everything I set out, it’s obvious that I will have to exercise more flexibility in my expectations and efforts.”  Totally realistic, right?

Statistics show that women who have flexible hours in 1989 were 1 in 10.  In 2014, a huge increase to 1 in 4.

Having a flexible schedule is much more common today, but a lack of that flexibility are not the demons that drag you to the gates of HELL! These demons are “BOUNDARIES and ACCOUNTABILITY”. Or lack thereof…

You can see that other women are able to do it all. That other women understand some secret ingredient to the potion that will give you a blissful life. So, why not you?

I will let you in on a secret…There is no potion, and there certainly isn’t another woman out there that can do it ALL!  No, she just appears that way because you caught a glimpse of her when she wasn’t having one her own moments.

The truth is that you only feel like everything might come undone because you lose yourself in the vat of chaos, and as the vortex continues to spin, you feel further and further away from climbing out. Just as you reach the top and are about to get to peace and quiet, you see another holiday, another project, another school exercise, or another anything that is a seasonal something to get in the way of getting to catch your breath. There is always something down the line or around the corner, right?

Telling you that you need to delegate more, or make more “YOU TIME” is SO overdone. If it was that easy, you would already be doing it. I get that. So, it would only make sense to come to one simple realization. “It’s NOT easy!” However, that doesn’t mean “IMPOSSIBLE”.

Two words that will provide an answer to the dilemma? BOUNDARIES and ACCOUNTABILITY!

Yes, you have likely heard that before too. But, it’s the truth, and the fires of chaos will not go out until you create boundaries and take accountability.

Whether you have colleagues, friends, or family that boundaries need to be set, you MUST do so to get a break. Period. If you are in need of a mental vacation, then you need boundaries. Do you need to delegate? Do you need to teach your family shared responsibility, emotional or physical? It is going to be tough to start, agreed. You will likely suffer what feels like a setback, a feeling of losing your footing. But remember that you are the only one that can make changes to YOUR life. If the changes that you desire are in your best interest, than they likely are for everyone involved. You are already taking on the responsibility of the well-being of yourself and others, so you might as well do at least this much for all concerned. Besides, what story are you otherwise telling those around you? Own your life, and you will find that everything around you will begin to fall into a better place.

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COMPUTER VIRUS SCAMS: They are hurting too many people

By: Meredith Skinner

I am so pissed. A senior got taken by a computer virus scam. Last Thursday we were coming out of the movies when I got a voicemail alert. A client was having issues with viruses and she had called a number from a pop up warning, given them her credit card information and access to her computer. They were in fact still on her computer when I reached her.

I was so angry for this lady. She was a senior who got scared by the pop up warning and they took advantage of her. They changed the password to access her computer, likely sold her credit card information, charged her $500 for the privilege and likely scraped off all her data. These computer virus scams are everywhere.

The number of calls we are receiving is becoming alarming. They call pretending to be from Microsoft or a pop up comes up on the computer warning that if they don’t call now their computer will fail and all their data will be gone.

Microsoft will NEVER call contact you about computer viruses.

How does the computer virus scam work?

These scams will direct you to a website showing the “company” that they are calling from to give them legitimacy. More often than not these scams are run out of India or China.  They will ask you for access to your computer using remote access software. Once this happens they will change or add a new password to your computer. More often than not they will also put tracking software on your computer.

They will then ask you for your credit card information. They will ask for $200 to $700. If you give them your credit card number they will then resell that number. Your card is now compromised.

They will very likely scrape off any data that they can use.

WARNING/BEWARE

Don’t get taken by a computer virus scam

  • Hang up if you get an unsolicited phone call claiming to be from Microsoft
  • If you get a pop up or a web page saying you have a virus and to call a number close down your browser. If it won’t close down, restart your computer.
  • When in doubt call and ask us for help. www.pcserviceonsite.ca
  • Do not give out any credit card information to an unsolicited “computer tech”
AVOIDANCE IS EXPENSIVE. Why getting real and confronting what is sets you free.

By: Abby McDonald

There are moments in life where it becomes so intense, when we just want to hide under a duvet, where you just can’t be bothered and you just don’t wanna deal.

Can you relate?

I’m sure many of you can as we’ve all have had our fair share of challenges in life where we were faced with the decision to fight or flee.

I can recall an incident a few years back in my life, where one of my staff at the time spoke up and told me that the niche market that my business specialized in, was about to take a hit, that we should take note and shift gears fast.

I didn’t want to see it because I had witnessed and overcome so many cycles in fact, over 10 years of it so I chose to remain “overly” optimistic instead of taking heed of the signs that were evident that a storm was approaching – I avoided it.

Well you can take a wild guess, the storm did happen and let’s just say that it wasn’t fun and that it cost me – big time.

Yes, my castle started sinking with me in it.  The tide had turned and I resisted it, instead of flowing with it.

In fact, it got so close to me folding the business while it left me feeling bewildered, sad and even depressed.

While hindsight is always 20/20 and there are no mistakes only lessons in life, I still believe that it is healthy and wise to confront where you’ve screwed up, not in a judgmental kinda’ way, but in a cathartic, loving way.

To ignore your weaknesses is to celebrate delusion and nothing pure and true can truly flourish when we don’t accept ALL of who we are.

Yes, to be present and aware is also to accept change willingly with an open heart and follow accordingly knowing that it could very well be the best thing for you.

You see, avoidance is expensive.

It’s fear based.  It weighs you down, it delays, it plants seeds for repetitive behaviours, patterns and unfulfilling situations.  It makes the decision to suffer more later.

Confronting what ails you however, is love based and courageous while it makes a declaration that says “I love myself enough to deal with what’s in front of me as I am responsible for my own life and thus I am perfectly capable of handling anything that comes my way.”

And so my dear friends, I say Be Free Now.

Get real and honest with yourself and be present and true to where you are in the now.

Because by doing so, you free yourself from the old story that is getting in the way of the Universe writing a new one for you.

Admitting your mistakes is tough, but not learning from them is fatal at the cost of true joy, fulfillment, peace of mind and happiness.

And so I know you may be shaking in your boots to confront the things that are hurting you but I’d like to encourage you to feel the burn and do it anyways.

Here’s 3 TIPS on How to confront what’s hurting you with courage and grace:

1)    Admit what sucks.

Ok, so it sucks, we know this now, let’s be true to ourselves and admit it – progress.  I’m not a proponent of complaining or whining but in order to change the course of your life, you’ve got to have the courage to admit what’s not working. Covering things up by hiding behind a mask and reciting positive, fluffy affirmations just isn’t gonna cut it.  Facing your truth is what empowered living is all about and then having the courage to take steps to change what you don’t like.

2)   Write down a list of what’s not working.

Writing down your thoughts and feelings about what’s not working is so powerful, as it helps you get over the fear by facing it.  Let it leap out on the pages before you.  There is nothing virtuous or heroic in settling for less than you deserve and playing small.  You have greatness inside of you, let it out.  Get really specific, it could be your career, relationships, finances, health, ALL of the above, whatever.  Face it, it hurts oh so good, you’ll feel lighter when you do.

3)   Forgive yourself.

Now forgive yourself and just let it go.  Cry it out if need be, then take your list and burn baby burn.  Allow all of the emotions to flow through you, and then choose again by setting an intention on how you would like to see your life unfold, focus on it intensely, work hard at it and then surrender it all.

I believe that there’s something really beautiful, pure and cathartic when we shine a light on the things that are getting in the way of our evolution.

And those who have the courage to reflect and face what ails them, set themselves on the path to liberation.

Now your turn:  What are you currently having difficulty with confronting in your life?  Do share what you’re going through with the rest of the community on the blog so that we can empower you to turn the page on your life.

OR, need advice?

Please feel free to email me with your heartfelt thoughts and comments and I’ll be sure to Reply.

All for love,

Abby xo
Life & Career Coach, Inspirational Speaker & Writer
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How Creating A Lush Inner Life Can Change Your Outer Life

By: Abby McDonald

At the beginning of every year I have a theme of words that I want my life to reflect.

I’m a bit of a nerd when it comes to words, and I like to use them as a guiding compass to assess whether my life is, in fact, reflecting the experiences I would like to have.

And, more importantly, if I’m honouring and living my truth.

This year I’ve chosen the following words: order, flow, joy, devotion, simplicity, love, harmony, elegance, grace, balance, expansion.

All of these words describe my higher self, and how I would like to feel in my inner world in order to manifest externally (in either my personal or professional life).

I then take it a step further, and creatively visualize my inner world in meditation as a vivid representation of these words in the form of a lush garden, flowing rivers, a beautifully decorated room with warm lighting which gives me a sense of feeling grounded, and at peace, serenity, and harmony within.

My world, my reality.

That way, when life happens and experiences start to unfold, (within or out of my control), the beauty of it all is, I can always refer back to my core for perspective. I can figure out what types of thoughts I’ve been having that conformed or deviated from my inner world theme to create the effects of my outer experience.

When there is inner alignment there is outer alignment.

Simple, clear, totally empowering and enlightening.

Let’s drive this point further by using practical examples of questions I can now ask myself.

1)  Is my personal/business finances reflecting a sense of flow and ease as I’ve described my inner world to be?

2)  Are my relationships rich in reflecting love, truth and harmony?

3)  Am I devoted to my work and calling in life as reflected in my daily actions?

4)  Does my home mirror the elegance, order, and beauty that my higher self describes so vividly in my inner sanctuary?

5)  Are my chakras balanced? Is my health in check? Am I taking good care of my vessel by eating the right foods that make me glow with vitality? Am I exercising regularly?

The answers to these questions reveal how much you are in alignment with your higher self. It reveals the things that you deem sacred, and that represent your best self.

Life becomes highly intentional, purposeful, and meaningful.

The goal, though, isn’t perfection by any means. As each one of you are a work in progress, we now have a north star to refer to when things get out of whack.

I find this method so empowering because it brings me back to my truth, and shows me that I am totally, unequivocally responsible for my life, as you are for yours.

The pen is in your hands, while the entire Universe is within, expressing itself through your own unique personalities.

When you open your eyes to see this, life can become a playful, colourful, joyful experience lit up in 5D.

Now over to you, let’s have fun with this!

What are some words that you would like to use to describe the life you would like to live and reflect for 2016?

Or, need advice?

Do share with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

I am wishing you all your greatest year yet!

May 2016 be the year that you flourish and rise into all that you were created to be.

All love,

Abby xo

Life & Career Coach, Inspirational Speaker & Writer
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Homecoming: Part 2

By: Robin Blackburn McBride

Ralph Waldo Emerson tells us the greatest accomplishment is to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else. In his timeless essay, “Self-Reliance,” he warns of two common threats to going off track in our own creative mission and authenticity: 1) conformity, and 2) the “hobgoblin of a foolish consistency.”

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Here are FIVE suggestions for surmounting both, and aligning with YOUR Inner Guidance System, authenticity, and the deep state of calm that is your true nature.

1. The next time you are tempted to drive or ride transit “like everyone else,” shift to a mindset that considers commuter time communion time. Here is an opportunity to commune with your Higher Self. What messages could you fill your consciousness with at as you travel? Uplifting audios are a real gift. Look for several coming soon to my website, and in the meantime, find audios that inspire you! Never has there been access to such uplifting and highly constructive messaging. Repetition is the key to fully absorbing and adopting new ways of thinking. Listen to the same helpful recordings repeatedly.

2. Learn to say “no” to requests that don’t align with your own purpose or values. This is particularly important for people-pleasers; many of us caregivers, consultants, coaches, teachers, and sales professionals fit this category. It’s okay to cut away from anything incoherent with your sense and vision of who you are and why you’re here. People will either understand, or they won’t. I love Jack Canfield’s advice: “What others think about you is none of your business.” For peace, follow your heart. Trust in choices that align with your core values, purpose, and integrity. Ultimately, those meant to connect with you will do so.

3. Be prepared to change any distracting habits that no longer serve you. Is your phone on and with you all the time? What would happen if you scheduled some unplugged time in your day? Multi-tasking can lead to merely skimming life when you long for DEPTH. Don’t miss the rich gift of experience this day offers by haphazardly flitting instead of purposefully committing to full engagement.

4. Use your schedule to create that “walk in the woods” in your mind and heart. You can be sitting at your desk and experience the calm of the forest and the fields. Your daytimer can be your best friend when you remember to schedule time for your own Well Being. Do you have a daily meditation habit? A take-a-break-for-fun habit? A routine (and yes, real actual) walk? For more on walking read here. Where are the free-making moments of your day? Writing them down is the first step in making them a) happen, and b) habit.

5. Release any habitual group encounters from your day that inevitably dial you down to joining in gossip and destructive criticism. Nothing good ever comes from this contractive state. Create from expansiveness, not fear. For more on shifting to a state of expansiveness read here. And here.

Here is one of my favourite quotes from Martha Graham – a woman who didn’t become a professional dancer until she was almost forty, performed and choreographed into her nineties, and one who transformed that art form and others’ lives by following Inner Guidance:

“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how valuable it is, nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”

You are here to be YOU. Nobody else can take your place, dance your dance, or sing your song. Say YES to your own inimitable life force, vitality, and expression. And if you’d like help identifying YOUR purpose and vision, and bringing your Dream to Life, contact me.

Saying “Yes” to receiving coaching support is a TRANSFORMATIONAL move.

Highly successful, conscious creators know the power of having a Mentor, a Vision, and a tried and proven Support Structure. In our work together, you have all three. And more.

Here’s to keeping the channel open!

Robin

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